The Matriarch of the Family

April 21, 2017


I am so thankful for this amazing woman.  She is the glue that holds us all together.  We are so blessed to have her totally involved in our lives.

Childhood memories with my Grandmother

As her eldest Grand-child, I was fortunate to have my grandmother all to myself the first four years of my life.  It was she who took me on my first trip to the big Apple – New York! I was 8 years old and I was so excited to be going on an airplane for the first time. (Actually, I was told I travelled before that, but I was just a baby, so I obviously have no memory of that). I was excited to take with my Cabbage Patch doll Jane.  My mom just had her twins Kyle and Kyla and gave me one of my sister’s outfit for my doll.  (Memories)

The afternoon I left for my trip, I remember my little brother Seon crying because I was leaving and he was staying.  We are four years apart and he would have had no one to play with – the twins were about four months at the time.  My mother, the twins and my brother Seon would join us in a month’s time.

I remember getting sick from the chicken I ate on the plane.  But it really didn’t matter, I was in New York with my granny. My aunt had some new outfits for me to try on and I was filled with excitement of the thought of the adventures to come.

Shopping Day was finally here!  I could not wait!  I tried on dresses that I liked which I couldn’t get because I was eight years old after all and it really wasn’t up to me.  To be honest I didn’t care, I was in New York with my grandmother!  What else could a girl ask for?

When I heard I was going to Coney Island/Ride Play Land – I was so excited. We didn’t have this sort of thing back at home in the island.  As we exited the train station, I remember hearing “Always by Atlantic Starr”. If you’re my age, you must know the song.  I fell in love with it instantly. Yes, I did, and in 2012, it was what my husband and I danced to for our first dance.

Coney Island was amazing!  Even though there were no other kids for me to hang out with, I really didn’t care.  I was happy to share the experience with my grandmother.


My grandmother remains the backbone of our family, the glue that holds us all together.  She brings calm, peace and comfort to my soul. She is so selfless – nothing that she has is too good to share with us.   At 81 years old, she still works part-time – she enjoys having her schedule to keep her busy.  I love hearing her stories about her past, even though sometimes they make me sad.  She tells us all the time “those were the good old days tings min hard but awe min better aff” (things were hard but we were better off)

Growing up with this remarkable woman has been such a blessing.  A blessing that I would never ever ever ever take for granted.  I thank God for her each and every day.

Pictured here: Left to Right (My cousin Shannon, my sister Kyla, our Grandmother and myself).

  1. a woman who is the head of a family or tribe.
    “in some cultures the mother proceeds to the status of a matriarch”
    • an older woman who is powerful within a family or organization.
      “a domineering matriarch”
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