My children are 10 then 3 years apart. My first experience with motherhood came at a point in my life when I wanted to do nothing else but have a baby, I bought maternity clothes months before I actually got pregnant. Well let’s just say it’s a good thing that I was so excited because by 7 months in, the only thing that I had to hold on to was that distant memory. That and my absolutely fabulous support system of friends and family. I learnt very quickly that it takes a village! Even so having experienced the challenges of motherhood it took 10 years for me to go again. I often reflect on my children, I love them and I enjoy them. It’s important to appreciate them in the moment they are in now 13, 3, 9 months- every day brings new discoveries and it’s seems impossible but every day I love them more than yesterday- teenage attitude, toddler tantrums, and the baby just learning to “fight sleep”. Motherhood can be frustrating at times but I wouldn’t change my experience for the world.
My greatest challenge is having to delegate my parenting duties to others. I have always wanted to be a full time mother. Every time I leave my children to go to work I feel like I am cheating them out of time they should be spending with me. I have made adjustments to allow for more time with them and it’s amazing to see and experience their response. However society today expects every mother to do it all. I have learnt its impossible to give 100% to work and family. There is only 1 you. You have to choose, I used to choose work, now ….most times…. I chose family.